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“How do I treat people who cannot reward me, promote me, or do me a favor?”
Kindness Without Expectation
It's easy to be friendly to someone who can help us. We might go out of our way for a boss, a customer, or someone who could open a door for our future. There’s nothing wrong with being kind to people who can do good things for us. But what about the others? What about the people who can’t give us anything in return? Maybe they’re new to town, or they’re struggling, or they simply don’t have power or influence in the ways we might value. How do we treat them?
This question digs deep into what’s in our hearts. Are we kind because we hope for something back? Do we offer a helping hand because we think it might lead to a reward? Or do we act out of a deeper sense of care for others, simply because they are fellow human beings?
Think about the times you’ve met someone who couldn’t do anything for you. Maybe they were a service person, a new neighbor, or someone on the street. Did you treat them with the same respect and warmth you’d show to someone important to your career or goals? It’s a challenge, isn’t it? We live in a world that often measures people by what they can do or what they have. It’s easy to get caught up in that way of thinking.
But true kindness doesn't keep a score. It doesn't weigh the benefit before offering a smile or a word of encouragement. It sees the person, not just their position or their ability to help us. When we treat everyone with respect, whether they can give us a promotion or not, we’re showing a strength of character that’s rare and valuable.
This isn't about being fake or putting on an act. It's about letting our genuine care for others shine through. It's about understanding that every person, no matter their situation, has worth. And when we treat them that way, something amazing happens inside us. We become more generous, more loving, and more truly ourselves. We free ourselves from the constant calculation of 'what's in it for me?' and open up to a richer way of living.
Consider what it would mean for our communities, our workplaces, and our homes if we all made an effort to be kind to everyone, especially those who cannot reward us. It would build stronger bonds, create a more welcoming atmosphere, and remind us of the shared humanity that connects us all. It's a simple idea, but it can change everything. So, let’s choose to see the person, offer true kindness, and let the good flow freely, without strings attached.
Luke 6:32-35
““If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who do good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do the same. And if you lend to those from whom you hope to be repaid, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, so that they may be repaid in full. But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, because he is kind to ungrateful and evil people.”
This passage encourages us to love our enemies and lend without expecting repayment, challenging us to show kindness even to those who cannot or will not reward us.
My Final Thought
True kindness isn't about what you get back; it's about what you give. When you extend warmth and respect to someone who can't offer you a single favor, you're not just being good to them – you're building a stronger, more beautiful character within yourself. You're living out a higher principle that values every person simply because they exist. So, look around today. Who can you bless with kindness, just for kindness' sake?